Choosing your bridesmaids and groomsman is deeply important due to a couple of reasons. First, they will be your support system thru the whole process of planning. Secondly, they will be by your side during many hours of your wedding. Individuals who are not prepared to handle pressure could be negative to you.
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There is no simple answer, but we have some advice to make it easier. You want to make sure anyone you choose is a good fit with your expectations. Keep in mind there are no rules in regard to wedding parties.
You can either have a big or small party or skip a bridal party all together. So without further ado, let’s dive into the good stuff. Let’s help you figure out who will make the cut 😬
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When you just get engaged, you are at a high moment. You are happy and thrilled to share the news with everyone. You might even ask a close friend to be part of your bridesmaids. But it would be wise to analyze any decision before moving forward.
A bridesmaid or groomsman will stand by your side during your ceremony & will likely appear in many of your formal photos. Still, he or she will also be part of the wedding planning process. You need to have someone reliable & dependable.
analyze this decision before moving forward… they will most likely appear in many of your formal photos
It is not like you are hiring them to be your wedding planner or wedding coordinator. They must have some level of commitment, especially if you know your time is limited. You will need to delegate wedding-related tasks. Try to choose friends committed to helping. Some with time, others with resources, or perhaps with crafty hands.
However, you might be a couple with plenty of time to plan your wedding. If so, then you should not have to pay attention to delegating friends to work your wedding. Also, if you have the budget to hire a event planner, they can take care of it all.
It is important that you are practical about your expectations. Your bridal party is a support system, but they are not your wedding planners. Things can go south really quick. Try to choose individuals who are there for you and get along with each other. The least you need is drama among them.
Family always comes first. If you have a close relationship with your family or your in-laws, you should make them part of your wedding party. Likewise, your sister-in-law or brother-in-law will much appreciate being on your side when the big day arrives. After you choose your family members then include your closest friends.
There isn’t an exact answer regarding how many bridesmaids and groomsmen a wedding should have. We believe bridal parties should be proportioned to the size of your wedding. If you are planning a 30-guest wedding & half of them are your bridal party, it could look awkward.
Another point is that smaller micro weddings require less planning. You do not need as much help from others to plan. Stick to your closest friends or only have a maid of honor instead of many bridesmaids.
it is important to keep it proportioned for the bride & groom
If there are four bridesmaids, then there should ideally be four groomsmen. But again, whatever you feel right is what you should go for.
It doesn’t matter if you have a uneven number of people standing up on either side. For example you can pair (2) bridesmaids with (1) groomsmen for walking down the aisle or a grand entrance. The most important thing to remember with mismatched sizes is to have everyone walk down escorted instead of by themselves.
If you choose to do all the planning, then you might not need your bridal party to be completely reliable. Your wedding party still must participate in many moments during your wedding. They need to be on time to get ready, perform for your ceremony & be present during your photo shoot.
if some of your friends are late even to work; perhaps you should not consider them
There are alternatives for how to handle unreliable bridal party members. You can still include them during your wedding planning process. We recommend inviting them to activities where it is not that important if they show up or not.
For example, a DIY decoration project or assembling your wedding invitations. They will still feel part of your wedding planning while not being compromised to attend & be part of your ceremony formally.
We know it is your wedding day & it should be all about you. It would be thoughtful to consider your potential wedding party financial situation before asking them to be part of your big day in that way. For example, being a bridesmaid or groomsman implies buying a dress or a suit, shoes, accessories, hair & makeup.
Be mindful of the financial situation of everyone & let them know you want them to be part of your bridal party. Still, they are not obligated to say yes. If they do not feel comfortable with the situation it is best to find out why.
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We hope our advice is useful & you have a better idea of how to choose the best wedding party. Remember that planning a wedding is already challenging and stressful. It is best to surrounding yourself with positive & helpful individuals.
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